Step 1: Keep the discussion brief and to the point. Long-drawn out discussions on heated topics will either get unresolved or stir up more anger. Hit the main points of your argument, ladies, and move on to a positive resolution.
Step 2: Although some men may never show their emotions physically by crying or eating lots of ice cream, they do have feelings. They mask them with other activities, such as smoking, drinking, watching sports, hanging out at a sports bar or club, etc. Their inner feelings may not get expressed verbally or as eloquently as you would like them to be. But keep in mind, they are sensitive beings as well. With men, sometimes WHAT you say and HOW you say it determines their level of emotion. (see Proverbs 15:1 “a soft answer turns away wrath”)
Step 3: Respect his space. Respect when he wants you in his space, and when he needs a breather from you. Use this as an opportunity to go shopping, to get pampered at the nail or hair salon, or to hang out with your own friends. When they see you can otherwise be engaged in activities and less clingy, you have become more attractive to them as an independent woman who knows when to please her man.
Step 4: Take time to learn what he likes instead of only doing things that you like to do for him. While selfless acts of kindness may go a long way with him, keep in mind that he is still ‘NOT YOU’, so find out his interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes. Get to know him intimately, emotionally, spiritually, as well as physically. This can prevent future arguments about what you got him for his birthday and Christmas, what you made for dinner, and where are you taking him for his surprise…
Step 5: Be yourself as you attempt to think like your man. You want him intrigued by you, not the image you portray over the phone or in emails or in texts.
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