The spring of 2009 was surreal. In the midst of a high risk pregnancy and a less-than blissful honeymoon of a marriage, I was at war. I was at war with family, friends, and enemies. I deemed my husband, his mistress, and anyone who knew about his affair as the enemy. I prayed even though…
…does not come easy when you’re in a toxic relationship. As a matter of fact, when it becomes unbearable and uncontrollable some times you have to let things go. The best thing to do at that point is to give the issues of a bad relationship to God. One of two things will happen: 1.…
Own up to your mistakes. Own up to the bad choices that you’ve made. Own up to the selfish need to be right. Own up to the fear of being alone. Own up to the fear of rejection. Own up to the fact that you love him, but he doesn’t love you. Own up to…
I asked this question in a therapy session, but didn’t get the answer I wanted. I asked friends and family, but they advised “enough” had been the first red flag during the dating process. Truth is, no one can truly tell you when enough is enough. Only you know your limits and when that final…
Thomas and Jonni stopped when they entered the cafeteria. Jonni surveyed the room to see if she recognized anyone. Only one woman caught her attention, but she ignored her. Darnell’s ex-girlfriend was probably here just getting a prenatal checkup. Jonni sighed and turned around. “He’s not in here so I’m going to head to the…
Dear Diary, I must admit that my mind wandered toward thoughts of another man. My present situation is beyond unhealthy and borderline insane. The constant fighting is a foolish problem to have, and my only escape from the nonsense is to dream about being with someone else. I felt guilty for this at first, but…
Dilemma: Waiting is a gift. It takes a special person to wait, especially one who has patience wrapped in a plastic bag of perseverance. We’re in a microwave popcorn society. Everything has to be right now, quick, fast, and in a hurry. Even our high-speed internet is considered slow if it doesn’t navigate to the…
As a mother of three boys and two girls, I try to be fair in discipline and love. Boys will test the waters, and I find myself almost screaming at the top of my lungs to get them to stop jumping off the kitchen table or to stay out of the street. My girls are…
Him: She is a good woman, but she doesn’t forget anything I’ve done wrong. Pastor: What did you do wrong? Him: I had an affair, and now she’s not with me at all. Pastor: That explains why she hasn’t forgotten anything. A woman won’t ever forget, but it is her choice to forgive you. Her:…
Most marriages cannot survive an affair. Divorce, abuse, resentment, and other negative consequences are the aftermath of divorce. What do you think? Is it possible to trust your mate after an affair and start over? I think it is possible to heal and if both parties are willing to make the marriage work, it is…